Loose shoelace

This blog was written because of a loose shoelace. And yet, it’s not in the walking category but in growth. That’s because a loose shoelace can be quite important. For running but also for general life, in personal development and growth.

Going for a nice run takes some effort in the beginning. Especially if you’re running early in the morning. Take a minute to wake up, warm up, start going and you’ll have a nice rhythm going IMG_20160807_201036before you know it. But if your shoe unlaces just as you’re starting your run?

That sucks! It’ll only take about 30 seconds to fix, but you are standing still and you’re rhythm is nowhere to be found.

This effect might also occur when you’re starting a new habit. For example, You’re trying to study some French every day, but two weeks in you get the flu so you have to stop, chances are you won’t pick it up again. And just as you start a new diet, the Oreo’s go on sale!

But why are there so many reasons to give up on new habits? Why do we quit something we just started so easily?

  • New habits feel unknown
  • In the beginning it takes more time than when you’ve got a set routine, this makes it seem like a lot of work, which makes you wonder if it’s even worth it.
  • The people around you might be holding you back. (are you sure you want to do that? Aren’t you busy enough already?)
  • You need to go outside your comfort zone, which makes it harder and more time consuming, and sometimes even nerve wrecking or scary.
  • You started because someone else said you should but you don’t really want to.
  • It’s just easier to do what you used to do.

Those are just a few things that can slow you down or stop you all together. But to be honest it’s not that important.

What’s important is: What is it that makes you hold don to a new habit?

– Make sure your goals is realistic
If your goal is achievable (not too big) but still challenging (not to small), it motivates you to keep going at it.

– Make sure your goal is relevant
If your goal is something that is important to you on the long term, or something you’re passionate about, the chance you succeed is much bigger.

– Add some social pressure
Tell your colleagues or family members that you’re running once a week now. Chances are, they’ll ask about it at the next party. Just the thought of that can make you go on.

– Get an accountability partner
You want to extra social pressure? Find someone who is also starting a new habit. Keep each other posted on your progress from time to time. Maybe meet up once in a while.

I have an accountability partner whom I text as soon as I’m done with my 7-minute workout. Even on days I really don’t feel like it, I hate to text him that I opted out that day. (if I don’t text him, he asks about it himself so that’s not an option either.) So working out it is!

-Don’t fool yourself
You can also choose to be your own accountability partner. Cause maybe no one else will notice if you stop dieting, or if you stop keeping up with your Italian lessons. But YOU will know!  And YOU know  you’re not doing what you told yourself you were going to do. Do you want to grow? Do you want to get better? Then why are you fooling yourself? Come on! If you don’t  feel like completing your goals, why are you setting them? Be strong and keep going!

-Rewards (Lynsay, Johna)
A new habit can feel uneasy at the start. So reward yourself if you need to. But make sure the rewards match the successes. So it’s probably a bit much to go away for the weekend because you went running for the first time. But maybe it’s fitting after you’ve run you first 5K marathon?

– Why make it bigger? (Lynsay)

Why do you choose the goal you choose? What do you want to accomplish? Make sure you keep your goal in sight? If you want to lose weight or get in shape, hanging a picture of you in the bikini you want to fit into again might be a great motivator. Or if you’re trying to learn how to speak French, find some pictures of typically French pictures and put them in the living room to keep you motivated in your studies. Visualizing your goals is part of the Miracle Morning SAVERS. Also look at this blog: V is for Visualization

– Cut goals into smaller pieces (Laurie)

Sometimes a goal is too big. Do you want to run a marathon, but have a very low endurance level? Focus on finding a running group first. Then your first 5K competition. And then in half a year look at running 15K or a half-marathon, and a year later a whole marathon. If you start running with an entire marathon in mind, it works against you because it seems unachievable.

– See problems as challenges and a way to grow (Brian)

This is the last on the list, but it could just as well be the first. Because it forms the base of how you deal with ‘problems’. As soon as you start seeing problems or setbacks( in achieving goals or in life in general) as challenges or better yet, as something that was put on your path to help you grow, it will help you tremendously. It provokes you, not to see a setback as something bad but as a challenge.

The bigger the problem? The bigger the challenge!

Is it hard to go run again today, were you just getting into a nice rhythm, and it’s been raining all week? It just makes it that much more awesome if you keep going! Were you planning on snacking less but all your colleagues are eating chocolate? All it does is make your challenge bigger!!

Extra tips:

– What helps me with trying to cut back on junk food: Keep the temptation close to you. Get an amazing candy bar and make deal with yourself (or better yet with someone else) that you won’t eat it. Put it in view on your desk. At the beginning it will be torture. But soon enough you’ll stop noticing it all together. After all, you’re not so weak that you can’t keep yourself from eating it are you? And if you can’t (or won’t) eat the candy bar, it’ll make you feel dumb to go snack on something else. It worked wonders for me!

– Check youtube for motivationals.(Unless your goal is to get rid of your internet addiction) Are you having a hard time getting yourself to go exercise?

Check this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hbkZrOU1Zag

Do you have any tips to pick up a new habit or to accomplish your goals? Leave them in the comments!!

Thanks to Lynsay, Laurie and Brian from the Miracle Morning 30 day Challenge Group

Do you have questions or suggestions for this blog? Contact me at info@miraclemorning.info! Henk

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